Downright Joy

Discovering joy in unexpected places – a journey into parenthood and Down's Syndrome

Love in every stitch

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I am knitting.

There. I’ve admitted it. After all these years, I am learning to knit.

And I am loving it.

I’ve never been a fan, it’s fair to say. There were better things to do with my time; not that I had the time to do better things. I felt superior. That knitting was beneath me. Fanciful yet dull. Not cultured enough.

I suppose I even looked down on those who spent time and money on this hobby. Believing them and their creations to be less than.

Preferring shop bought perfection over (what I saw as) imperfect and clumsy looking.

Frills and frou frou.

I was the same with houses. Give me a modern, easy to maintain, some say characterless, property over an older one with its quirky features and creaky floorboards any day.

I didn’t see the joy.

The love in every stitch.

The story in every room.

All I knew was prejudice – towards knitting and crafting. Towards joy.

Until last week.

In a few short months I have been truly humbled by some new friends. Their love and joy for this most ancient of crafts has made me realise how much I have been missing. Hand crafted items that I once would have been disdainful of, I am coming to regard as things of beauty. Things that have the power to make my heart sing even.

Love in every stitch.

So, last week, I began to learn to knit.

It did not start well. The woman in the shop asked me if I had chosen the right size needles. Did they have the right number on them? She obviously saw my hesitation and suggested I could go back and change them if they were the wrong ones.

I just nodded. I hadn’t the faintest idea what she meant. Her next question stumped me completely.

“What are you knitting? What’s it going to be?”

Again, I had no idea.

But in a moment, across the counter, I knew it didn’t matter.

I knew that whatever I knitted would be beautiful.

Unique.

A one off.

It mattered not what it was, or how long it would take to finish – if ever.

It was mine.

I paid, stuffed the needles and a ball of wool into my bag and left the store.

Excited.

There’s a verse in the Bible that I have always loved…

You knit me together in my mother’s womb …. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

When my baby was born with Down’s syndrome I had many other prejudices that needed taking down. Prejudices about people with Down’s. Ideas that they were somehow less than other people.  I craved the perfection I saw in babies without an extra chromosome. I asked why my baby had been given the wrong number. I wondered what she would become. How would she turn out?

Others asked this question too.

Some asked it before she was born. They said I could forget about her and try again. Hopefully get one with the right number. For all my prejudices towards people with Down’s syndrome, this suggestion was abhorrent to me.

Five and a half years on and I know now she does not have the wrong number.

There is no such thing.

She has a different number.

That is all.

Knitted together….fearfully and wonderfully made.

And there is love in every stitch.

hazel-in-hat

With thanks to the knitting & non knitting geese in my life.

Honk honk x

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Author: alisonjane2014

Married. Mum of 2 girls, one of whom has Down's Syndrome. Follower of Jesus. Finding joy in unexpected places.

5 thoughts on “Love in every stitch

  1. Hahaha!!! Great! Now we can have Knit and Natter nights!! Even if all I can do is knit squares to eventually become NICU blankets!

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  2. Not sure you could call my knitting a square yet!!

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