Downright Joy

Discovering joy in unexpected places – a journey into Down's syndrome, Dyspraxia & Autism


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A Test

Is there a test for you?

Is there a test to tell me how much joy you will bring?

Is there a test to tell me how much you will make me laugh?

Is there a test to tell me how proud I will be when you hit each milestone?

Is there a test that tells me how much you will look and sound like your sister?

Is there a test to tell me how much you will make complete strangers smile?

Is there a test to tell me how privileged it feels to be part of this new community?

Is there a test to tell me how much you will change my life for the better?

Is there a test to tell me how cute you look with your hair in bows?

Is there a test to tell me how you will show empathy to those around you who are sad?

Is there a test to tell me how much you will overwhelm me with your love?

Is there a test to tell me how much I miss you when I am away from you?

Is there a test to tell me how much fun you will derive from watching the washing machine on its spin cycle?

Is there a test to tell me how many incredible new friends I am going to make because of you?

Is there a test to tell me how much you will adore your sister and how much she adores you?

Is there a test to tell me how much pleasure you will have from swinging on your shiny blue swing?

Is there a test to tell me how fiercely proud I will be of you each time we attend yet another hospital appointment?

Is there a test to tell me how many songs you will learn to love and sing along to?

Is there a test to tell me how good it feels to take our busy, hectic lives at a slower, less frenetic pace?

Is there a test to tell me how we will lead happy and fulfilling lives, you and me?

Is there a test to tell me how much we will learn to appreciate simplicity?

Is there a test to tell me how you will want to follow your own agenda in life?

Is there a test to tell me how you will have your own feelings, emotions, desires, longings, hopes and dreams?

Is there a test for you?

 

Yes, there is a test* but it’s for you.

A test more advanced than ever before.

A test that poses no risk – for you.

A test that will tell you I have Down’s syndrome.

A test that will tell you all you need to know.

Apparently.

Yes there’s a test.

You can take it if you like.

No one is suggesting you can’t.

But it’s not a test for me.

*A new blood test  (NIPT) is about to be offered on the NHS to women to screen for Down’s syndrome and other genetic conditions. It is being hailed as a major advance. Many people in the Down’s syndrome community and beyond are deeply worried & saddened by this news – coming so soon after we celebrated World Down Syndrome Day and all the achievements of people living with the condition. A test that is meant to give women a ‘choice’ – yet it badly lets them down as it tells them so so little. This is not an informed choice.

This is not choice.

 

Hazel in sensory room black and white